Acceptance: The Key to Family Mediation
can be a key to successful mediation, not just as an
acronym, but as a valuable goal.
All parents and children experience loss
during and after divorce. It is normal to
experience grief for those losses.
The grief process* which binds parents and
children together begins in the stage of DENIAL
and ends in the stage of ACCEPTANCE.
Parents are seldom in the same stage at the
same time. This can add to the chaos.
We are expected to make some very important
decisions when the chaos is greatest.
Understanding that these stages of recovery
and healing are built into us as human beings and
a part of the normal grief process can help us
reduce the chaos and move toward the stage of
Remember the word ACCEPTANCE. It can be a
guide as you make those important decisions for
yourselves and for your children.
* See Elizabeth
Kübler-Ross, On Death and Dying
Agree that it's OK to disagree.
Check the written agreement.
Center on Common Ground.
Eliminate communication barriers.
Pursue the problem, not the person.
Talk when the children are not around.
Accept the other parent as part of your support.
Negotiate in good faith with self-respect and
respect for the other parent.
Call a time out if emotions escalate.
Encourage each other.
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